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DANCE- The Man’s Choice

Only the COOLEST Men DANCE.

Part 1-  Learn. Friday morning. 7 a.m. Day 2 of Arthur Murray Dance Studios’ fabulous Superama. I’m preparing myself for a great day at work (not sure if you can call dancing for a living work, but it sure is a job that’s a lot of fun).  As I’m going through my daily routine and applying makeup to my lightly tanned face I take a look in the mirror and strike a pose (as most dancers do).  While in my waltz frame, I start to think about the world and dance.  And how the world and dance are both things that I love (as most dancers think about).  A thought strikes my mind, “How did I get so lucky to do this?”  Maybe it was just by chance, or by design.  And then it hit me.  2 things guided me to this industry (like most male instructors).  1-women and 2-men.

#1 Women-  The women got me interested in how dance could fit into my cleverly planned smooth moves and pick up lines at local hang outs.  I saw the movie Swing Kids and got hooked on how all the woman gravitated toward the guys that knew how to dance.  Sure it was the movies, but who hasn’t seen a movie and started to immediately take on that role the moment the movie was over?  Later that day I pretended I was a smooth Lindy Hopper trying to pick up on the ladies that ignored me once before.  Although I had the swagger, I did not however have the cool dance moves down.  That’s where Arthur Murray® fit in.  I immediately called and demanded that women hang all over me like in the movies and although my needs were not met, they were satisfied with the understanding that one day I would wield a power that only few men possessed.

#2 Men-  The men on the other hand were different.  After about 3 months of taking lessons, I gained the courage of entering a local dance competition where I got to showcase my talents, cleverly named “Showcase”.  I had mentioned to my instructor that maybe one day I’d like to be an instructor as well (after all, I was having a blast learning this stuff ) and was introduced to a couple of guys that she thought would be a good influence on me.  They were both latin with their hair slicked back (similar to my cousins, but they had more style).   One said “So you want to be a teacher, huh?”  That’s right!, I said.  “Well, maybe you just might fit in, IF, you have the right moves.  You see, guys like us are high in demand and there are only so many good ones to go around”  Sold!

The man that dances gets his chances

Wanna dance with these hot chicks? Call your local Arthur Murray®

That was all the influence I needed to make my decision.  They quickly left to the dance floor and danced like I’ve never seen before.  I looked around the room while everyone’s eyes were glued to their bodies moving to the rhythm.  “I want to be like that one day”, I said.  “I want to be the guy that all the people look at and admire”.  It was then that I made the decision to be a guy in high demand.  A man that can DANCE!

Over the many years of partner dancing there has been, in general, a shortage of men to dance with the lovely ladies that outnumber the male by at least 3 to 1.  You would think that given the numbers, a smart guy would take his chances at the risk of maybe being a bit embarrassed and take those odds.  A betting man would bet on himself to be the only one in a crowded room that dances with every woman that is either A) looking for someone to hold or B) wishing that the one they came with was more like you.  Hmmm.  Sounds like a Win-Win to me.

Meanwhile, Back at Superama.

Part 2-  F.E.A.R. After applying a light set of foundation (Revlon Spice #45 to be exact), I glue my hair to my head w/ an enormous amount of hair gel/glue and what seems to be hairspray (or maybe a wood lacquer of some sort), thought #2 runs into my mind about men and dance.  I mean, what guy wouldn’t want to do this?  I feel pretty manly right now with my make up and extra hair product.  I feel pretty manly right now as I slip on my latin shirt with the built in leotard that showcases the upper half of my bodacious chest accompanied by my latin pants that grip the bottom half of my torso which allows others to increase the way they see me from behind.  I am reminded that I am in Las Vegas and I could be mistaken for a Chippendale (then again, that wouldn’t be a bad thing).

O.K.  Maybe there’s the whole Perception vs. Reality thing going on (a False Evidence About Reality if you will).  Maybe, what most men are watching is Dancing With the Stars and their sports icons wearing outfits that they would never be caught in public with.  Maybe they’re seeing grown men on TV look like fools with their famous female “Dance Instructors” trying to move like a professional to choreography fit for the pros.  Maybe, just maybe, they’re seeing the wrong image of what dance really is and their reality of dance is not the REALITY of DANCE at all.

Real men dance with women like in this short clip posted here.  Real men rule the dance floor with their cool techniques and abilities to make the lady feel like a Real Woman.  Not sure if the male species has heard, but women love the man that can hold them and sway their bodies like nobody else can.  My wife.  Case in point.  If it wasn’t for my dancing, I would just be another skinny latin guy.

A friend and I once calculated the worth of our stock as potential suiters/boyfriend material before we were married.  Needless to say, it was very low.  In fact Enron has more value.  Our wives would agree that our sexiness rating increases exponentially when we became dancers (the skinniness factors dissipate immediately after the first box step).

Here’s what we know about the DNA of a man (REMEMBER: All facts are derived from my own experience and the experiences of one other friend.   So with that being said, I believe it should prove to you that I am now an expert in all men facts including behavioral patterns and social skills).

Every man wishes to be James Bond.  Why?  Because James Bond is the Ultimate Man (him and that latin guy from those Dos Equis commercials cleverly dubbed “The Most Interesting Man in the World”).  So if that is true, then our job as MAN is to increase our inner Bond-ness by any means possible.  The Ultimate guy, amongst other things, will have 3 main factors to him and one of them is the ability to Dance a lady into submission.  For the other two, you will have to buy my book when it comes out.

Are you as interesting as this guy? If you danced, you'd come close.

It is said that a Women can tell a Man…

by the way walks into a room,

by the way he touches her,

by the way he moves his hips,

by the way he treats a lady,

by the way he holds her,

by the way he Dances.

 

Part 3-  The Flip Side. I remember the first time I learned to dance.  My cousins and uncles would make fun of me (as most latin families do).  They would constantly sing Tina Turner’s “Private Dance”, dancer for money, do what you want me to do. One day I showed them a photo of who I danced with (my wife) and then the video that accompanied it.  They haven’t bothered me since.  Okay maybe they do, but not about the dancing.

I interviewed the lady clientele at every Arthur Murray I’ve been to and the answer is unanimous.  Women love a man that can dance.  One was even quoted as saying “the man that dances gets his chances.” However much dancing may increase the attractiveness of the female counterpart, Dancing, is not for every man.  It’s not for the man that wants to have coffee down the street by himself having people watch him wondering “Poor guy.  He has no friends.”  It’s not for the man who would rather live the life as an online stud muffin avatar named Joe Biceps.  Dancing is not for the man that prefers a good conversation about a mediocre book he read over an incredible social encounter with the person of his dreams.  Lastly, dancing is not for the man who would rather live through a text field from a phone and social media (like the one you’re reading from now) than meet a real person face to face.

Part 4- Results. I recently met with a Vietnam War veteran that piloted for the 82nd airborne division.  He recounted this story of his trip to China…

“I was on the Great Wall of China when I wanted to take a picture with a group of women I was with.  When the photographer was about to shoot, I lifted one girl up and started Fox Trotting.  We posed for the picture as we danced.  She squealed like a school girl.  I grabbed each one and with each one a different dance.  Cha Cha, Rumba, Waltz.  Each one screamed.  The babes loved it and they loved me.”

If that’s not a man, I don’t know what is.  A Vietnam vet (whom by the way had two lovely ladies on each arm while he told the story) testifying how dancing keeps him happy.

So if this is anything, it’s the role call to bring all the men that want to be THAT guy that the ladies search for.  To be THAT guy that ladies flock to in a distressed situation.  To be THAT guy that ladies dream about.   I wanted to be THAT and it got me THAT girl.

If you know someone that could use this as encouragement or if you’re a man still asking whether or not dancing is right for you, listen to the millions of screaming women who agree how a dancing man please them so, how a dancing man is the way to go.

But then again, it’s all up to you.  Your choice.  However, you know what they say about a man that can Dance…:)

*all studies and stats are pure fiction.  Results may vary depending on the Dancer and the move.  Each move has the ability to make each women feel and act differently.  Please use Dance and Dance affiliated venues with caution as it may cause heart related issues, including broken hearts (if not used properly) and excited partners.


It was a cold and rainy evening on the eve of Dance O Rama.  Those coming in on wednesday were surprised to see the sight of their fantastic weekend, become so gloomy.  It was what they saw back home on the east coast or a normal April day in England.  Even those from California were wondering if they had arrived in California.  But that’s what’s expected.

On the eve of a Dance O Rama all is grey, even the minds of those who will participate.  Grey with thoughts of performing to the their own expectations or those expectations of others.  It’s expected to fail the eve of any event, just ask any veteran, that’s how you know you’re ready.  And ready we were in San Jose.  So much in fact that we willed the grey to end.  We willed the light to shine and the sun to rise and on the day of Dance O Rama, a bright Thursday appeared with the sun on everyone’s faces and the smiles of everyone around.  It was here.  San Francisco Dance O Rama has arrived.

Love, Chaos and Dinner at the Famous Teatro Zinzanni

We were fortunate enough to spend a fantastic evening at the fabulous Teatro Zinzanni for a glorious evening of Love, Chaos and Dinner (their slogan).  Arthur Murray packed the house with more than 2/3 of the crowd.  Enough so that the actors had to mention us in their act and boy did they receive a thunderous applause every time they did.  Food was enjoyed, dancing was had by all and fools were made fun of as they were picked from their seats and into the jester isle.  A fabulous time indeed.

When Friday morning crept around, it was early, but not early enough to steal the hunger of a dance competitor.  We were hungry for the art of dance at 8 am.  Who does that?  San Jose Arthur Murray does!  From 8 am to 1am we danced.  We left it out all on the floor. The day began with Solo Routines.  We rocked it.  Country Western, did that with a hat!  Smooth freestyles, did that!  Rhythm Freestyles, did that!  Bachata?  Did that too!.  There was no limit to the dances we were capable of.

We even had time to take a break for a little Country Western party where a legendary duo of Arthur Murray antics choreographed an award winning formation where the gentlemen and their lady counterparts entered in a duel of dancing to the death.  It was close, but by unanimous decision the Gentlemen won.  Yes it’s true, even the judges said so and should you question or would like to challenge the decision they can be reached by pager.

Saturday brought much excitement to the table.  Open freestyles allowed the students to do their fantastic routines and Scholarships showed off their  dancing to the next level.  The evening was a huge success.  Talk about dressing to the nines.  I think Arthur Murray Dance Studios invented it.  Everyone was decked out in their best to celebrate a wonderful culmination of dance events and camaraderie.  When asked what they thought about the whole weekend, a San Jose student replied “The weekend?  It was…Sexy.”  I couldn’t have agreed more.  Sexy was San Jose Arthur Murray’s middle name.  Sexy were the jackets we wore all weekend, it was our cheering and demeanor.  Sexy was the way a certain San Jose Franchisee walked when escorting her fellow Franchisee and husband as he received a Top Instructor award.  Sexy?  We were brimming with it.

All in all, San Francisco Dance O Rama was a huge hit.  It was the success that we had all hoped for it to be.  And when Sunday rolled around, we could only reminisce of the great time we had the nights before.  We remembered the laughs we had, the good times (we tried to remember the bad times but there weren’t any) and the hardware we came home with.  We knew the next week was awaiting.  6 a.m was around the corner and our daily routine of shower and a coffee were whispering in our ears.  We knew work was calling and regular life would be exactly where we left it, on the front door step next to the mail we hadn’t collected in 4 days.  But for this one weekend, we all had the experience that can only be matched by another.  Until the next one my friends.  We want to thank everyone for participating and hanging out with us crazy people all weekend long.  We had a blast and would do it again in a heart beat.

But this is something that we will always have in our hearts.  As cliche as this may sound, we truly left our Dancing Hearts in San Francisco.

After a day like showcase, you would expect to relax and take a day off.  Not San Jose.  Not our students and staff.  We live in Silicon Valley and with a tough city we have tough people.  Tough people that like to get their hands dirty with the techniques and philosophies of the sport known as ballroom dancing.  A day off is for the procrastinator of dreams and our dreams came true knowing that we had superhero like coaches coming in on Monday and Tuesday.  Superhumans like Ron Christy and Snow.

If you’ve ever had a coaching lesson, then you know what it’s like.  For those that don’t, let me give you an idea.  It’s like Luke Skywalker meeting Yoda.  he got all the training from Obi Wan, but when he needed something more he was introduced to Yoda.  Luke thought he knew what it took to be a Jedi, but Yoda’s training opened his eyes to more than the average Jedi can see.  He made him train harder and gave him things that other Jedi’s could not.  A master coach is the “Yoda” that gives you material and techniques that only a Jedi Master Coach can.  And just when you think you can’t do more, they push you a little further to become the Jedi they know you can be.  A coach gets you to do things in a shorter period of time than it would normally take.  That’s the Magic of a Jedi Coach.

The first Jedi Coach we had after showcase was Ron Christy.  What can we say.  He’s a man made of almost steel with an almost steel head and can almost see through anything.  He can however see what we need to work on.  Students had a blast working with him one on one and in his workshop.  Have you ever witnessed a miracle in your life?  That’s what takes place during a lesson with a coach like Ron.  He not only astonished and amazed our students, but our staff as well.  We had a field day trying to understand the man known as Ron Christy.

The next day, a Snow storm came to town.  Jedi Coach Snow had her first day here in the San Jose studio and it was much anticipated.  Each lesson went by faster and faster.  Time flies when you’re in a blizzard of excitement of dance.  She worked with students of all levels and the feedback was incredible.  We even had a student ask “When are you coming back”, within the first five minutes of the lesson.  We constantly talk about how much you learn and improve when you have a coaching lesson.  Snow was the example.  Students walked away in amazement of how advanced techniques were simplified and applied during the lesson.

Arthur Murray San Jose has Jedi Coaches coming in once sometimes twice per month.  Check the calendar and see when the next coach is coming by and schedule fast because Jedi Masters are high in demand.  Don’t be left out of the opportunity a coach can bring to your dancing life.


A Friend of a Friend…

So I asked a good friend, and fellow blogger, of mine about what the deal is with all of this internet blogging stuff.  He proceeded with lots of analogies on how great it would be to have a blog and how exciting of a life I would lead.  Actually it was a 2 question answer:  “Do you have a blog”, “Yeah”, “Is it cool if I did one?”, “Yeah”.  That was enough to convince me.  And that was that. I started writing and the rest is history.

So recently I had a birthday and Cari decided to get me a Jack Lalane Power Juicer.  It was probably one of the best gifts that I ever got.  So great, that we decided to get every fruit and vegetable in the grocery store that night!  The next morning I awoke to the wonderful sound of fruit mincing their way into a frothy juice to be enjoyed by my taste buds.  The same day upon coming into the studio I told our staff how great the juicer was and how healthy it is for your body.  “You can just feel yourself getting healthier knowing that all the nutrients are going right into your system”, I said to Dustin.  You know what.  He got one the next day.

Showcase day rolled around and we talked about how much fun juicing was and there was a compadre, Ron Christy.  He jumped in without hesitation and told me how excited he was to juice as well.  “I hated drinking any juice from the store, but for some reason, I love the juice I make at home with Jack Lalane’s power juicer”–ting!  That was the sound his mouth made when he smiled really big.  It’s like all of a sudden we were part of a juicing club and I was one the spokesman because I couldn’t stop talking about it.

Then it hit me.  I was excited about a power juicer because of how much fun it was and healthy it was for me.  Out of the excitement and caring for others I shared my story in hopes that they would be happy and healthy like me.  I wanted to help my friends and share with them something that I loved so much.  If a power juicer does that to me, I wonder what dancing does for our students?

Telling a friend how much fun you’re having with your dancing is a wonderful idea to share something good with them.  In a world of bad news, why not share a light at the end of that workday tunnel and help them find something to look forward to.  Too many times do we try to hold things for ourselves and like when we have “our own thing” that nobody else can touch.  But in an effort to make it our own, we exclude or don’t think about the effects that dancing can have for others, especially our friends.  At Arthur Murray we always appreciate when our students let their friends know about what a good time dancing can bring.  In fact it’s the highest form of flattery for our teachers and studio to know that we did a great enough job that you wanted to share your new passion for dance with your friends and family.